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Things I Can Do to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back August 20, 2010

Are you one of the millions of men who are wondering: “What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back” following a breakup?

Most begin to worry and fret about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to compose apology letters in their heads and strategize about the perfect gift or perfect speech that will help them to rekindle the flame.

But how is a guy to know what to do, when most of the time the real reasons  for the breakup are hazy and unclear? Women have different emotional triggers than men, and often don’t understand, themselves, what brought on the outburst of discontent that led to the ending of the relationship.

So, unless you did something really rotten to her, and know exactly the root of the problem to begin with, you have about as much chance of discovering what caused the rift as you have of winning the lottery.

You need a  strategy!

In order to answer the question  “what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back” You have to distance yourself from the relationship for a while, and redirect your energy toward something positive and fun. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and pretend you never knew her for awhile.

DO NOT fall into the trap of depression, anxiety, guilt, feeling sorry for yourself, or the really big one, JEALOUSY! If you spend all your time worrying about who she is with and what she is doing, I guarantee things will overwhelm you and you will do something stupid that will end the relationship for good.

A few weeks or months apart  will make both of you reconsider the causes of the breakup and help you both to make changes in your lives. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

You will gradually come to appreciate the differences in the way you two approach life and love, and in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a short time apart, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Is this relationship worth saving, and how will that be possible? The next thing to do is to reconnect to your own feelings about her and decide whether or not you really want to get back together .

This is not the time to fall to your knees and beg for forgiveness, however. There are too many emotional issues to be sorted out between you two to appear weak or maudlin now. But the strong, silent type usually only gets the girl in the movies, so you must be ready to express your feelings in a calm, rational way at the first opportunity.

You can only take playing things cool with your ex so far.

If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her, and it may be time to up the ante by making the first move. Women absolutely adore a man who can show sensitivity and admit they have been wrong [even if the man doesn’t agree that he WAS wrong], and a well-thought-out mea culpa may be just the thing to re-ignite the spark.

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, the bond between you should now become apparent.

Be careful not to over-think things. Remember, relationships are a matter of emotions, not cold,
hard analysis. If you play it cool, but are ready to communicate when she is, you should be fine.

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